I’ve always been a big believer in my kids learning to fall asleep on their own.
It all started with my first. He was a great little guy except when it came to sleep. By the time he was four months old, I was a tired wreck of a mom and that’s when we sleep trained him.
When my second came along, I was blessed with another non-sleeper. Even though I eventually sleep trained her as well, it has always been a constant battle, even now at the age of five.
I think one of the reasons is because I wanted them to fall asleep on their own. Yes I co-slept when they were newborns, but after sleep training, I was adamant that they fall asleep on their own. This was really hard to enforce when it came to grandparents because they had a really hard time with it.
But over the last year, my thoughts and ideas on the kids’ bedtime is changing. Maybe it’s because they are getting older. At age five and seven, they aren’t babies or toddlers anymore. They are getting older and it’s happening fast. I want to make the most of this awesome time with them.
Soon enough, they are not going to want to climb into bed with us, they are going to want hang out with their friends more than their parents and let’s face it, we are not going to be the center of their universes.
So until then, I’m okay when they want to climb into bed with us in the middle of the night. Until then, I’m happy to lay down with them in their beds after I tuck them in.
It’s actually the time when the best conversations happen, when the kids all of a sudden remember stuff about their day that they forgot to tell me when I asked, we giggle about funny things and we cuddle. It’s only a few extra minutes each night but each time I feel like it’s bonding us and bringing us closer together.
Most of the time they are still awake when I leave the room. On occasion my daughter may fall asleep while I’m beside her but I’m fine with that too. She’s so happy when I’m there with her, her arms around me and a smile on her face.
They are not going to want it forever, so until they do, I am happy to oblige.