If someone unexpectedly stops by your house, are you one of those people who will say, “Sorry for the mess,” or “Excuse the mess?” I am. I’ve been noticing it more lately and it’s been bothering me too.
I’m the first to admit, I am not the world’s greatest housekeeper, I never have been. I like to think I’m a good mother, a nice friend to have, a fabulous writer and a pretty good wife 🙂 But no, keeping everything neat and tidy is not my forte. Yet, I’m always stressing out when everything’s messy! I feel that I have to apologize when someone comes over and the kid’s toys are everywhere and dishes are piled up in the sink. I don’t like it when my in-laws come over and things aren’t perfectly tidy and in order because they always have spotless home.
Right now, this is what parts of my house look like. And yes I know, it’s not that bad. Some days it’s a lot worse and some days it’s better.
I could be tidying up, but instead I’m writing this post. Why? Because this makes me happier and eventually everything will get picked up and put in the right place.
I want to be able to do it all. And even though the name of my blog is The Write Balance, I’m slowly realizing that balance doesn’t mean you can have and do everything perfectly. I had quite a meaningful conversation with my friend Renata at Keeping The Me in Mommy on Twitter. She said somethings that really got me thinking. She said that, “There is no one way to do mom. Happiness is key wherever you find it. I fully believe (balance) exists, part of it is broadening our definition of a great mom.”
Makes you think doesn’t it? So maybe it’s time to start apologizing for what we haven’t done and to stop feeling guilty. Maybe it’s time to embrace who we are and that we are doing our best as mother’s and women. Maybe it’s okay that things are a bit messy or that you didn’t make a home cooked meal tonight. Maybe what does matter is that the kids are safe, content and happy and so are you.
What do you think?