The other day, out of the blue, my five-year old asked if he could spend time alone with me. I was so surprised when he asked. I know about the benefits of having special time with each child, but I still thought Keyan was young and didn’t really think about it yet. I guess I was wrong.
So a couple days later, we dropped his little sister off with Grandma for a couple hours and just did some fun stuff together. It was really nice to have the one-on-one special time and we are going to try and make it a regular thing.
The obvious benefits of spending quality alone time with each of your children is the special bonding time you will have together which will only strengthen as your child get older. I started reading more articles on this exact subject and I found some really interesting thoughts that I wanted to share:
– A Mother Far From Home says individual time with your children can help build self-esteem in shyer children and it may even cut back on attention getting behaviour. She believes it’s the best way to really get to know your child.
– Life Your Way stresses that although it’s important to be connected as a family, it’s also important to be connected to each parent for relationship building. This way you’re communicating to your child that they are really important to you!
– FamilyEducation.com writes that to effectively teach your kids discipline, you need to establish that special rapport and that’s what you get with special time alone with them. Besides, most parents find that tensions dissipate, boundaries fall, and troubles fly away, at least until special time is over. On their site, they also have an awesome list of ideas for fun things you can do with your child when you’re spending alone time, with the strong recommendation that it shouldn’t always involve food treats.
And my final two cents is that these one-on-one times and special dates will create beautiful memories that you (and hopefully your children) will always cherish.
When did you start spending one-on-one time and having dates with your kids? And what do you like doing together during this time?